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rapplerAds.displayAd( "mobile-middle-1" );Rappler’s Life and Style section runs an advice column by couple Jeremy Baer and clinical psychologist Dr. Margarita Holmes.
Jeremy has a master’s degree in law from Oxford University. A banker of 37 years who worked in three continents, he has been training with Dr. Holmes for the last 10 years as co-lecturer and, occasionally, as co-therapist, especially with clients whose financial concerns intrude into their daily lives.
Together, they have written two books: Love Triangles: Understanding the Macho-Mistress Mentality and Imported Love: Filipino-Foreign Liaisons.Dear Dr Holmes and Mr Baer:Next month will be my mother and father’s golden anniversary. My siblings and I (we are 5) are doing the planning for this event which will have approximately 200 guests.
I am not worried about all those guests, but of two particular ones.The two of them are sisters of each parent. Both of them have the same goal of getting me married.
They are single maiden aunts. Last Christmas when I saw one aunt, she said in the vernacular: “What? You’re not married yet? How do you expect to have kids if you wait too long?” (“Ano? Wala ka pang asawa? Paano ka magkaka-anak kapag maghintay ka pa?”)She then looked around at the people listening to get their nods of agreement (which she got).My other auntie saw me at a restaurant with my friends, patted my stomach and said something about my not eating.