When American marriage counsellor and author Joe Beam sat his adolescent daughter down to talk about sex, his opening line reportedly was: “Honey, the first thing you should know is that sex is good. It’s the most wonderful way God gave a husband and wife to say ‘I love you’ to each other.”As I read his book Becoming One, I marvelled at how courageous he was to start out a conversation with a child new to puberty like that! Do you remember the conversation you first had – if at all, that is – with your parent(s) about sex?Heeee.
.. fire and brimstone, just.
Beam shares that even American parents are scandalized whenever he shares this opening line to this uncomfortable discussion. Some tell him he was setting up his daughter for promiscuity by sharing the sweetness of sex.But like Joe Beam writes: “No.
In fact, the opposite is true. By telling her the truth about God’s intent for marriage, we didn’t set her up for temptation or sin or anything but a wonderful marriage. We’re weary of dealing with young women who are taught for years, ‘Sex is bad.
Sex is bad...
’ and then later, ‘Oh, you’re getting married tomorrow, then sex is good!’”Few things in parenting are as difficult as talking to one’s child about sex. Kudos to Beam that he could be so eloquent and spot-on. Many of us did not get that luxury of being sat down to talk about eby’obusiru (stupid things) as sex was referred to in many Buganda homes.
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